ESFJ - Personal Relationship

The Supporters


ESFJs recognize the responsibility that comes with being a parent, and rise to the challenge. Their responsible nature makes them excellent parents who are willing to do whatever it takes to take care of their child. They respond quickly to their children’s needs, and love the feeling they get every time they help their children. ESFJs are always their children’s biggest cheerleader and advocate. Their children always know they can go to their ESFJ parent for help and advice.

ESFJs are great at setting boundaries for their children and enforcing the rules. Sometimes, however, ESFJs can become authoritarian parents. They can be somewhat controlling, but only because they want what is best for their children. ESFJs must remind themselves that making mistakes is just part of growing up, helping their children learn and grow.

Romantic Relationships

ESFJs dependable nature makes them excellent romantic partners. They are eternally loyal, trustworthy, and loving. They are not just looking for a casual fling — they want to find a long-term, committed relationship.

ESFJs are willing to give a great deal of time and energy to their romantic relationships, but their relationship will not thrive unless they receive the same amount in return. This is especially true of receiving affirmation from their partners. In fact, ESFJs often seek affirmation from their romantic partners, as well as their friends and family. They often become preoccupied with what their partner thinks. They will fish for compliments, and can be very sensitive to conflict within the relationship.


ESFJs make very loyal and kind friends, and are always there for a friend in need. Many people are naturally drawn to the charismatic and friendly nature of ESFJs. In turn, ESFJs are accepting of all others, even those who have very different personality types than themselves.

Once ESFJs make a friend, they work hard to maintain their friendship. They are always looking for opportunities to spend time with their friends.

I think love is the through line and it's universal and it doesn't matter what period of time, time or place, or people, that's something we all connect to. That's the thin thread that I think keeps it altogether.
Rachel McAdams