ISFJs often seek out the opinions of others, but may have a hard time accepting criticism. They may become reliant on others’ approval to validate their self-worth. Others may view ISFJs as overly-sensitive and emotional.
ISFJs enjoy helping others, but for some ISFJs, this may translate into trying to change others. ISFJs must always remind themselves they can’t help everyone — they can only help people who want their help. This tendency may become particularly troublesome for ISFJs’ romantic relationships. They may initially enter into a romantic relationship wanting to help someone change, but may become frustrated when their romantic partner can’t change.
ISFJs strongly held values, coupled with their responsible nature, gives them the drive to work hard and meet their obligations. However, ISFJs must always be aware of what the driving force is behind these obligations. Oftentimes, ISFJs can feel obligation from social expectations, rather than an internal desire to change the world. They must not fall into a routine of helping others at a cost to themselves and their own wellbeing.
ISFJs’ strong desire to “belong” means they may be overly concerned about their social status. They may become preoccupied with how others’ see them, and this can potentially be damaging to their self-esteem and character. It is critical that ISFJs take time to think about their own needs and desires, rather than the needs and desires others have for them.